I made the mistake of blinking and now I have a 12 week old!
Once you finally have your own baby you finally really get it when people say how fast it goes. It's crazy. Her head changed shaped before we even moved into the post-partum room. Her cry changed before we even left the hospital. I felt like I never had a delicate newborn since she came out so big and strong. She's had head control from day one. She rolled over on day 9. She's been standing and sometimes even balancing on her legs for several weeks. She's just a few ounces away from 14lbs. And she's already out growing 3 month clothes. Slow down baby, mommy can't handle you changing and growing so fast! It's possible her newborn clothes are still piled up in her crib since I just can't bear to pack them away yet. She outgrew them by four weeks! I also may have squished her into newborn size sleepers for far too long. The night I finally tried a 3 month sleeper it fit way too well!
Post-partum Recovery
Oh god. Why doesn't anyone tell you just how awful this is??? The doctor tells you the stitches dissolve in two weeks. Lies!! Down there was so painful and sore and just plain miserable for many weeks. I think I used dermaplast and tucks pads for three weeks. Then at four weeks those damn stitches started working their way out. I pushed my post-partum check-up out to almost 9 weeks because there was no way I wanted anyone near that area. I finally weaned off stool softeners a couple of weeks ago but I'm still keeping my fiber intake up. And what's with the squishy belly that won't fit in your old pants and isn't solid enough to hold up maternity pants. Thank goodness for yoga pants. Lots and lots of yoga pants - capri, shorts, pants - I have them all! At my check-up appointment I of course was offered birth control and I declined. Yes, I know there's a tiny chance in hell I'll get pregnant naturally and I would welcome it if it happened. My doctor did IVF and then less than a year after she had her twins she had another baby, so yes, it does happen. Since getting pregnant and having our daughter I've had so many people ask if we would be able to get pregnant on our own now. I've had to do a lot of educating on how pregnancy does not "cure" infertility. But I'm happy to do my part to spread awareness. I've also run into so many more people suffering from infertility and I have two people that are at the beginning stages and have come to me often with questions. Talking with them brings back the memories of when we started this journey and even though I don't need the reminders, it does help me cherish our daughter that much more.
Breastfeeding
Oy. My poor nipples. Little miss was a champion feeder from the get-go. Her gusto with feeding led to cracked and bleeding nipples within six hours of her being born. I swear she had little retractable vampire teeth! She did awesome in the hospital. After the initial feeding frenzy she settled into every three hour feeds. And then my milk took five freaking days to come in... Yea. When you give birth to an eight plus pound baby they're hungry. All. The. Time. We actually ended up giving her some formula through a little tube taped to my boob on day four because she was constantly crying in hunger. Once my milk finally did come in, it came in too well. I ended up with over active letdown and an over supply. Nothing like hearing and watching your poor little baby choke and gasp while she drowns in milk. We were saturating a burp rag and both of us at every feeding. Little miss ended up with colic and explosive all day long poop which of course led to a nasty rash that took many weeks to resolve. I ended up having to only feed off one side for long stretches of time - up to 12 hours at one point. The other side was left to get painfully engorged, but it paid off and after a few weeks my supply settled down. Even now I pump maybe once a week so I can take longer to run errands without her with and even that's enough to ramp up my boobs. But she's old enough now that she can deal with it better. When the over active let down was at its worst her way of coping was to clamp down on my nipple as hard as she could and shake her head back and forth. This lead to a sizeable crater in the middle of my left nipple. Thank goodness for nipple shields! It's the only way I was able to continue feeding off that side and luckily once it healed she weaned off the nipple shield rather quickly. Nursing now at 12 weeks is a piece of cake. I'm so glad I stuck with it even though I wanted to give up so many times in the first month.
Little Miss
Our beautiful little girl has stolen our hearts forever. She can be feisty like her mommy and loves naps like her daddy. It's amazing how one day you have this little person that's here to stay forever. She's strong and she's healthy and has become more happy than not. She had a few bumps in the road with feeding issues and colic. She also had two very miserable weeks after the rotavirus vaccine, but she's finally over that. She loves messing with her daddy - she likes to make huge poop messes for him. She can be a momma's girl - especially when she had those rough two weeks, but she's starting to really like her daddy too. I think what helped their bond was all the skin to skin they did after bath each night for the first month. We'd give her a little sponge bath and then dressed only in her diaper she would take a long nap on her daddy's chest. She also ended up taking a lot of naps on her daddy's chest throughout the day - I think this was daddy's way of getting lots of extra naps, too!
Number Two? Maybe?
I hate that we can't just enjoy our sweet baby without already thinking about number two. I turn 35 in a couple of months so I think we may lean towards sooner rather than later, but I'm not sure when would be the best time for us. If we decide to try and have the second one due around the time she turns two that means in less than a year we would be gearing up for FETs. And that seems way too soon. But if we wait another year I'll be 37 when baby is born, provided it doesn't take as long. Part of me is always secretly hoping I'll end up in the small percentage of those who get pregnant naturally after IVF. One can only hope!
For now I'm just going to enjoy and soak up all the snuggles I can. Because all too soon she will be grown and out on her own.
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Monday, June 22, 2015
Little One's Birth Story
I'm a firm believer that if you've suffered from infertility you should automatically get an easy labor and delivery. Nature proved to me that I am delusional!
Turns out Thursday night was my early labor. I didn't get much sleep at all that night and was up the next morning for a memorial service for a family member. It was just a very small service and I had agreed earlier in the week to have everyone over to our home afterwards for dinner. After five hours of contractions Thursday night, they tapered off considerably. During the day on Friday I had the occasional strong contraction, but was able to hide it from family - I may have just taken extra trips to the bathroom, but when you're hugely pregnant no one seems to notice! Our plan all along has been to not tell family when I went into labor. We wanted to have those first several hours with baby all to ourselves.
The last family member left our house about 7:30pm. I was exhausted so after picking up around the house I headed for bed at 8:30. At 9:00pm strong and painful contractions hit full force. There was no easing into things! I was moaning and sometimes screeching through the contractions. Most of them were in the 5-7 minutes long range with only about a 2-3 minute break in between. My husband called our doula and she could hear me moaning in the background. She told him I sounded like I was in active labor and to call labor and delivery to give them a heads up. By midnight I couldn't take it at home anymore. I had tried drinking lots of fluids and a warm bath. My coping skills were running out as the contractions had only increased in intensity. When my husband called labor and delivery they said I could come in and be monitored, but with contractions lasting for so long they didn't think it was active labor. Once we made the decision to head in to the hospital my husband seemed to panic a bit. He was rather frustrated when I decided I needed to put makeup on before heading to the hospital. This ended up taking a lot longer than normal since I had only 2 minute breaks from contractions to try and put my make up on. The trip to the hospital is only 10 minutes from our house, but seemed so much longer. I had some very painful contractions in the car and it was so uncomfortable not being able to move around.
We had to go through the emergency room since it was after hours. I was wheeled up to labor and delivery where our doula met us. My nurse came in the room and said she would do a cervix check and put me on the monitors for a bit to see how things were progressing. She checked my cervix and it basically hadn't changed from my OB appt earlier in the week. I was dilated to one and about 70% effaced. She said she would monitor me for a couple of hours and if I didn't progress they would send me home. I flat out told her I wasn't leaving. Contractions continued to get more miserable and intense. My doula told me I was getting to the point where I looked like I was in transitional labor. And still, my darn cervix refused to budge. I finally thought to mention I had cervical stenosis. I had been meaning to tell my OB about, but kept forgetting at each appointment. The nurse kind of freaked out on me and said she didn't find that anywhere in my chart. The decision was made to try a shot of morphine to see if it would relax my body enough to let my cervix dilate more. I burned through the morphine with my next contraction. My doula then suggested maybe we needed to do an epidural and then do manual dilation. The doctor on call agreed this was a good idea. I had planned on not having an epidural but after 7 1/2 hours of painful labor and no progress I welcomed the sweet relief. I get it now why people go with epidurals. At 4:30 am the epidural was placed and 20 minutes later the nurse started doing a manual dilation. She said she had to break through some scar tissue and was then able to get my cervix to open to about 4 1/2cm. I was then allowed to rest for awhile to see what my body would do on its own.
The epidural of course slowed my labor. The doctor came in around 8:00 and broke my water. Then pitocin was started to get my contractions going in a more steady pattern. The doctor's guess was that I would be ready to start pushing around noon. Well, my body had other ideas of course. It took longer than expected to get my contractions strong enough and for my cervix to finish dilating. A little after 2:00pm the nurse told me it was time to get ready to meet my daughter and to start pushing. This was the moment when it truly hit me I was finally having a baby after all our years of infertility. I just started bawling. I started pushing at 2:25pm. Two hours into pushing and the epidural was no longer doing anything for me. I have never been in so much pain. The last hour of pushing I remember screaming several times that I didn't want to do this anymore. Baby got hung up on my pubic bone for awhile. At one point they brought in a mirror so I could see my progress, but who were we kidding, I could see I wasn't making any progress and eventually told them to get rid of the mirror. Eventually the doctor came in with the delivery team and said it was time for me to have this baby. My husband is a physician and so he was allowed to help deliver our daughter. Near the end of pushing baby's head got stuck in the opening. The doctor asked me probably four or five times if she could do a small episiotomy since baby seemed to be stuck. I finally gave in and after a few more pushes baby finally came out at 5:56pm after 3 hours and 31 minutes of pushing. I ended up with a second degree tear in addition to the episiotomy.
The doctor delivered baby's head and shoulders and my husband took over and helped deliver the rest of baby. We had planned on doing delayed cord clamping, but baby came out blue and not moving. She was placed on my stomach and the doctor said, I'm sorry, we can't wait to cut her cord. My husband then cut her cord and she immediately started screaming. The nurses were poised to take her over to the warmer and the doctor said absolutely not, leave her on mom. I pulled baby up on my chest and we stayed like that for the next hour. Despite her initial appearance her apgars were 9 and 9. Throughout my entire labor and delivery baby always looked perfect on the monitor. It was only during the last five minutes of pushing that her heart rate started to dip a little bit during contractions. That's the only reason they allowed me to push for so long. Most of the doctors will lean towards doing a c-section if mom has been pushing for two hours. My doula works in the labor and delivery department where we delivered and she said she personally has never seen a patient push as long as me.
While I was snuggling baby the doctor was delivering my placenta and then sewing me up. I happened to notice there seemed to be a rather large amount of bloody rags piling up and I could tell my doctor was looking concerned. I knew my history of endometriosis and IVF pregnancy are at a little bit of increased risk for post-partum hemorrhaging. I asked if everything was okay and the doctor told me she needed to reach into my uterus to remove some blood clots. Then she was mashing down on my uterus. I asked if I was going to end up in the OR and she said I shouldn't need to. By that point baby was starting to nurse and my uterus decided to start cooperating and the doctor then focused on stitching me up. I didn't ask how many stitches and I don't really want to know. When she was nearing the end of the stitches she hit an area where the lidocaine didn't take. She kept injecting more lidocaine, but every time she tried stitching again I could feel everything. So the past several stitches were very painful. We hung out in labor and delivery for a couple of hours and used that time to snuggle our daughter and to start notifying family.
My next post will be about post delivery and baby's first several days.
Turns out Thursday night was my early labor. I didn't get much sleep at all that night and was up the next morning for a memorial service for a family member. It was just a very small service and I had agreed earlier in the week to have everyone over to our home afterwards for dinner. After five hours of contractions Thursday night, they tapered off considerably. During the day on Friday I had the occasional strong contraction, but was able to hide it from family - I may have just taken extra trips to the bathroom, but when you're hugely pregnant no one seems to notice! Our plan all along has been to not tell family when I went into labor. We wanted to have those first several hours with baby all to ourselves.
The last family member left our house about 7:30pm. I was exhausted so after picking up around the house I headed for bed at 8:30. At 9:00pm strong and painful contractions hit full force. There was no easing into things! I was moaning and sometimes screeching through the contractions. Most of them were in the 5-7 minutes long range with only about a 2-3 minute break in between. My husband called our doula and she could hear me moaning in the background. She told him I sounded like I was in active labor and to call labor and delivery to give them a heads up. By midnight I couldn't take it at home anymore. I had tried drinking lots of fluids and a warm bath. My coping skills were running out as the contractions had only increased in intensity. When my husband called labor and delivery they said I could come in and be monitored, but with contractions lasting for so long they didn't think it was active labor. Once we made the decision to head in to the hospital my husband seemed to panic a bit. He was rather frustrated when I decided I needed to put makeup on before heading to the hospital. This ended up taking a lot longer than normal since I had only 2 minute breaks from contractions to try and put my make up on. The trip to the hospital is only 10 minutes from our house, but seemed so much longer. I had some very painful contractions in the car and it was so uncomfortable not being able to move around.
We had to go through the emergency room since it was after hours. I was wheeled up to labor and delivery where our doula met us. My nurse came in the room and said she would do a cervix check and put me on the monitors for a bit to see how things were progressing. She checked my cervix and it basically hadn't changed from my OB appt earlier in the week. I was dilated to one and about 70% effaced. She said she would monitor me for a couple of hours and if I didn't progress they would send me home. I flat out told her I wasn't leaving. Contractions continued to get more miserable and intense. My doula told me I was getting to the point where I looked like I was in transitional labor. And still, my darn cervix refused to budge. I finally thought to mention I had cervical stenosis. I had been meaning to tell my OB about, but kept forgetting at each appointment. The nurse kind of freaked out on me and said she didn't find that anywhere in my chart. The decision was made to try a shot of morphine to see if it would relax my body enough to let my cervix dilate more. I burned through the morphine with my next contraction. My doula then suggested maybe we needed to do an epidural and then do manual dilation. The doctor on call agreed this was a good idea. I had planned on not having an epidural but after 7 1/2 hours of painful labor and no progress I welcomed the sweet relief. I get it now why people go with epidurals. At 4:30 am the epidural was placed and 20 minutes later the nurse started doing a manual dilation. She said she had to break through some scar tissue and was then able to get my cervix to open to about 4 1/2cm. I was then allowed to rest for awhile to see what my body would do on its own.
The epidural of course slowed my labor. The doctor came in around 8:00 and broke my water. Then pitocin was started to get my contractions going in a more steady pattern. The doctor's guess was that I would be ready to start pushing around noon. Well, my body had other ideas of course. It took longer than expected to get my contractions strong enough and for my cervix to finish dilating. A little after 2:00pm the nurse told me it was time to get ready to meet my daughter and to start pushing. This was the moment when it truly hit me I was finally having a baby after all our years of infertility. I just started bawling. I started pushing at 2:25pm. Two hours into pushing and the epidural was no longer doing anything for me. I have never been in so much pain. The last hour of pushing I remember screaming several times that I didn't want to do this anymore. Baby got hung up on my pubic bone for awhile. At one point they brought in a mirror so I could see my progress, but who were we kidding, I could see I wasn't making any progress and eventually told them to get rid of the mirror. Eventually the doctor came in with the delivery team and said it was time for me to have this baby. My husband is a physician and so he was allowed to help deliver our daughter. Near the end of pushing baby's head got stuck in the opening. The doctor asked me probably four or five times if she could do a small episiotomy since baby seemed to be stuck. I finally gave in and after a few more pushes baby finally came out at 5:56pm after 3 hours and 31 minutes of pushing. I ended up with a second degree tear in addition to the episiotomy.
The doctor delivered baby's head and shoulders and my husband took over and helped deliver the rest of baby. We had planned on doing delayed cord clamping, but baby came out blue and not moving. She was placed on my stomach and the doctor said, I'm sorry, we can't wait to cut her cord. My husband then cut her cord and she immediately started screaming. The nurses were poised to take her over to the warmer and the doctor said absolutely not, leave her on mom. I pulled baby up on my chest and we stayed like that for the next hour. Despite her initial appearance her apgars were 9 and 9. Throughout my entire labor and delivery baby always looked perfect on the monitor. It was only during the last five minutes of pushing that her heart rate started to dip a little bit during contractions. That's the only reason they allowed me to push for so long. Most of the doctors will lean towards doing a c-section if mom has been pushing for two hours. My doula works in the labor and delivery department where we delivered and she said she personally has never seen a patient push as long as me.
While I was snuggling baby the doctor was delivering my placenta and then sewing me up. I happened to notice there seemed to be a rather large amount of bloody rags piling up and I could tell my doctor was looking concerned. I knew my history of endometriosis and IVF pregnancy are at a little bit of increased risk for post-partum hemorrhaging. I asked if everything was okay and the doctor told me she needed to reach into my uterus to remove some blood clots. Then she was mashing down on my uterus. I asked if I was going to end up in the OR and she said I shouldn't need to. By that point baby was starting to nurse and my uterus decided to start cooperating and the doctor then focused on stitching me up. I didn't ask how many stitches and I don't really want to know. When she was nearing the end of the stitches she hit an area where the lidocaine didn't take. She kept injecting more lidocaine, but every time she tried stitching again I could feel everything. So the past several stitches were very painful. We hung out in labor and delivery for a couple of hours and used that time to snuggle our daughter and to start notifying family.
My next post will be about post delivery and baby's first several days.
Wednesday, June 17, 2015
She's Here and She's Perfect!
Baby Girl arrived four days ago at 39 weeks 1 day. She's perfect! We're so in love. Birth story coming soon since I do want to remember the details. A very quick recap. I labored for 21 hours and pushed for 3 1/2. Baby was a rockstar throughout, but mommy kept hitting roadblocks and we only did 5/16 things on our pretty basic birth plan. But she's here and she's healthy and that's all that matters.
Friday, June 12, 2015
39 Weeks and Early Labor???
Last night I started having very painful contractions every 5-10 minutes. I was moaning, huffing and puffing and even screeching at times. Finally after two hours I gave up sleeping and started cleaning instead. The contractions continued but I just kept working through them. Around 3am I started losing my mucus plug. Then about 5am the contractions tapered off and I slept for a couple of hours. Throughout the day I've continued to have bouts of painful contractions but nothing regular. I'm going to try and get some sleep now. Hopefully baby makes an appearance this weekend because these random bouts of painful contractions are getting brutal.
Wednesday, June 3, 2015
Any Day Would Be Good...
I just realized I never updated from my last post. The results came back and I do not have cholestasis, thank goodness! I still have the itchiness at night, but now I just ignore it the best I can.
I've had a few episodes of stronger contractions but after 4-5 of them they fizzle out to nothing. My last OB appt I was finally dilated to one and more effaced than the previous appt, but my doctor didn't say by how much. I'm starting acupuncture soon so hopefully that will get things moving.
My husband is off for five weeks starting Monday so it would be awesome if she would make her debut next week, but I just have this feeling she's quite comfy in there.
I haven't had any stretch marks pop up yet, which I'm grateful for. Although, if I do get any, they'd be worth it! I am all belly. Everyone says I look like I have a giant basketball under my shirt. This better mean I lose all the baby weight quickly, right?!
Baby's room is finished and the rest of the house is good enough. We have a freezer stocked full of meals. Now we just need baby!
I've had a few episodes of stronger contractions but after 4-5 of them they fizzle out to nothing. My last OB appt I was finally dilated to one and more effaced than the previous appt, but my doctor didn't say by how much. I'm starting acupuncture soon so hopefully that will get things moving.
My husband is off for five weeks starting Monday so it would be awesome if she would make her debut next week, but I just have this feeling she's quite comfy in there.
I haven't had any stretch marks pop up yet, which I'm grateful for. Although, if I do get any, they'd be worth it! I am all belly. Everyone says I look like I have a giant basketball under my shirt. This better mean I lose all the baby weight quickly, right?!
Baby's room is finished and the rest of the house is good enough. We have a freezer stocked full of meals. Now we just need baby!
Wednesday, May 20, 2015
When a 15 Minute Appointment Turns into 2 1/2 Hours...
I was supposed to have a routine checkup today. I mentioned during my appointment in the past week or so I've had some intense itching on my legs, feet, arms, and hands when I go to bed at night. Apparently it's a possible sign of cholestasis, a liver problem that can occur in pregnancy. I've stayed away from pregnancy books and google for most of my pregnancy - instead relying on my doctor, doula, and close friends when I had questions. So when my doctor told me to stay off of google, I knew this could potentially be bad. I ended up having blood work drawn and an ultrasound.
I don't have the results on the main blood test yet. Apparently it's a send-out lab and it will be a few to several days before we get the result. The other labs tested at my clinic today all came back good. My doctor told me when she is suspicious of this and tests for it, usually the patient tests positive for it about 50% of the time. If I do test positive I'll have to be induced at 37 weeks - so next Friday. Apparently the biggest issue with cholestasis is baby being stillborn so as soon as you hit 37 weeks it's best to get baby out. I also had a bio physical ultrasound done today and of course baby measured perfectly on everything! She was being her cute little self. One hand was curled up by her cheek and the other was holding on to her foot! And she's getting some adorable chubby cheeks. The ultrasound tech even checked to see if she had a head of hair - looks like just some fuzz! My cervix was checked today as well and it's closed, but starting to soften up.
For now baby is doing awesome and I just need to patiently wait for results and go from there.
I don't have the results on the main blood test yet. Apparently it's a send-out lab and it will be a few to several days before we get the result. The other labs tested at my clinic today all came back good. My doctor told me when she is suspicious of this and tests for it, usually the patient tests positive for it about 50% of the time. If I do test positive I'll have to be induced at 37 weeks - so next Friday. Apparently the biggest issue with cholestasis is baby being stillborn so as soon as you hit 37 weeks it's best to get baby out. I also had a bio physical ultrasound done today and of course baby measured perfectly on everything! She was being her cute little self. One hand was curled up by her cheek and the other was holding on to her foot! And she's getting some adorable chubby cheeks. The ultrasound tech even checked to see if she had a head of hair - looks like just some fuzz! My cervix was checked today as well and it's closed, but starting to soften up.
For now baby is doing awesome and I just need to patiently wait for results and go from there.
Monday, April 20, 2015
60 Days to Go...But Who's Counting?!
I can't believe we're in the final stretch! We finally started on her nursery a couple weeks ago. My husband painted it all and I've been shopping for the finishing touches. We have a crib set up. In our house. For our baby. I'm guessing this will all sink in sometime around her first birthday! Baby Girl continues to do well. She's getting so strong in there! Even when she nails me in the ribs or hip I'll congratulate her on how hard she kicked me. I'll definitely miss her moving around in there!
We were out of town over the weekend for my husband's work. I strongly recommend against traveling long distances this late in pregnancy. I was so uncomfortable and sleeping in a hotel bed just isn't the same as being at home. I also noticed airplanes and airports are not designed for pregnant women. I felt I took it pretty easy over the weekend, but I had some really icky stretches of braxton hicks. One day I was having 10+ in an hour. Another day they got really intense over a few hours and were lasting several minutes. I actually started to get stressed out that night. There was no way I wanted to end up in a hospital several states away from home. Luckily our hotel room had a giant bath tub that was deep enough to completely cover my belly - it was awesome! I think in the three nights were were there I took about five baths! I feel like my belly popped out a bit and dropped a little over the past week.
Two more months before this little one is in my arms!
We were out of town over the weekend for my husband's work. I strongly recommend against traveling long distances this late in pregnancy. I was so uncomfortable and sleeping in a hotel bed just isn't the same as being at home. I also noticed airplanes and airports are not designed for pregnant women. I felt I took it pretty easy over the weekend, but I had some really icky stretches of braxton hicks. One day I was having 10+ in an hour. Another day they got really intense over a few hours and were lasting several minutes. I actually started to get stressed out that night. There was no way I wanted to end up in a hospital several states away from home. Luckily our hotel room had a giant bath tub that was deep enough to completely cover my belly - it was awesome! I think in the three nights were were there I took about five baths! I feel like my belly popped out a bit and dropped a little over the past week.
Two more months before this little one is in my arms!
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